The Ultimate 2017 New Year’s Resolution: Self-Love

January 5, 2017

It’s January 5th, 2017 [insert dramatic sound effect akin to Law & Order’s iconic “dun dun”]: do you know what your New Year’s resolution is?

If you’re part of the 45% of Americans who regularly make New Year’s resolutions (or even part of the 17% that are considered “infrequent” resolvers), the goal(s) you’ve set for 2017 might very well look like…

“Lose weight.”

“Quit smoking.” [Not a smoker? Simply replace with “Quit drinking.”]

“Exercise more.”

“Eat healthier.”

“Stop procrastinating.”

“Get organized.”

There are sooo many more, but let’s just stop there; in just that short example, it’s pretty easy to see a theme emerge—a pretty negative one, if you ask us.

It’s no surprise, though. Researchers have noted that New Year’s resolutions are typically grounded in motivations to change our perceived vices—our addictions, our bad behaviors, our so-called “destructive flaws.” We know what’s good for us, we just can’t seem to get it right. But hey, this time around, it’ll be different. THIS year, we’ll be better.

Look. It seems pretty much everyone can agree that 2016 was a doozy of a year. The extent of the toll those 365 days took on us collectively has been depicted in countless memes circulating across the Interweb that are both hilarious and scarily accurate.

Many of us have been put through the metaphorical (and perhaps literal) wringer and walked—OK crawled—out the other side. So, in looking ahead to 2017, how about we opt not to beat ourselves up; instead, let’s envelope ourselves in a great big bear hug (the physical logistics of this are difficult, yes—but you know what we’re getting at).

We’re not saying that we shouldn’t set resolutions for the year; after all, the action in itself represents an opportunity for personal growth and achievement—and who can’t get behind that? What we are imploring, though, is to frame said resolutions around self-love and acceptance—not self-loathing.

TED, one of our favorite resources for bite-sized insight and inspiration (maybe you’ve heard of them?) appear to be on the same page: they’ve curated a playlist of 12 TED talks to help you “…make resolutions that reflect your core values—to be kinder, more confident, more open to change.” We here at The Dime have highlighted for you below some of our “must-see” picks  for some out-of-the-gate inspo:

  1. Want to be happy? Be grateful

From TED: The one thing all humans have in common is that each of us wants to be happy, says Brother David Steindl-Rast, a monk and interfaith scholar. And happiness, he suggests, is born from gratitude. An inspiring lesson in slowing down, looking where you're going, and above all, being grateful.

  1. All it takes is 10 mindful minutes

From TED: When is the last time you did absolutely nothing for 10 whole minutes? Not texting, talking, or even thinking? Mindfulness expert Andy Puddicombe describes the transformative power of doing just that: refreshing your mind for 10 minutes a day, simply by being mindful and experiencing the present moment.

  1. Let’s revive the Golden Rule

From TED: Weeks from the Charter for Compassion launch, Karen Armstrong looks at religion's role in the 21st century: Will its dogmas divide us? Or will it unite us for common good? She reviews the catalysts that can drive the world's faiths to rediscover the Golden Rule.

  1. The power of vulnerability

From TED: Brené Brown studies human connection—our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself, as well as to understand humanity.

What are some ways you’re reframing your resolutions for the upcoming year? Do you have any nuggets of advice you’ve taken to heart that could be helpful for us all to keep in mind? Comment below!